Note from BW of Brazil: Before I start this post let me acknowledge the fact that I’m not a huge soccer fan. For me, sports and novelas are simply two tools of manipulations used by the Brazilian media to keep men and women preoccupied with things that aren’t really important to their lives. That in itself is a whole other topic. But today I will discuss something that I’ve noticed over the years even not paying much attention to futebol games, scores and highlights. I noted this fact yet again in the past fews weeks as more examples of Brazilian racism and racism in soccer stadiums once again became front page news with three recent incidents involving two players and a referee. What always catches my eye is that every time I see a black Brazilian soccer player in the news because of a racist incident that happened to him, it always seems that his wife or girlfriend is white. No, I haven’t written down all of the times that I seen this over the years, but suffice it say, if I were to create a new soccer league using only professional black players with white wives or girlfriends, I would have enough to probably compete with any established league.
Now as this is a topic that has been frequently covered on this blog, let me start off this post with the disclaimer: This blog doesn’t hate interracial couples and is not against interracial couples. The objectives here are to analyze and understand what drives the union of such couples beyond the typical conclusion of “love has no color”. As such, a better question would be: If “love has no color”, why is it that well known Afro-Brazilian soccer players rarely (if ever) choose black women as partners? Some of these men are often featured in the Brazilian media and a few of them will have international eyes focused on them with the coming World Cup. What message will it send to the world when all of these prominent black men stand in that spotlight but never with a black woman at their side?
Note: It’s safe to assume none of them have ever heard Muhammad Ali’s views on the topic
Muhammad Ali on interracial marriage
It’s not necessary to name all of the players I’ve seen over the years and most Brazilians already know the facts, even if they support the existence of such couples as proof of Brazil’s absence of racism (which is a fallacy in itself). One case that comes to mind was back in April of 2005 when the black player known as Grafite (Edinaldo Batista Libânio) was called “seu negro de merda” (or “black piece of shit”) by an opposing player, Leandro Desábato. The incident made headlines and was a hot topic as at the time racism in European soccer stadiums was also attracting international coverage. In the middle of all of the talk about the topic, I remember seeing Grafite appear as a guest on the late night talk show, Programa do Jô. While the player conversed with host Jô Soares, the camera showed a quick glimpe of Grafite’s girlfriend in the audience. At the moment I remember thinking, “Hmm, ain’t that something. Black man cries racism and then goes home to the ‘protection’ of his white girlfriend.” I acknowledge that one doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with the other, but it was interesting.
The very next year, I remember reading on the now defunct website Mundo Negro that the black goalie Dida of 2006 seleção (national soccer team) World Cup team was the only black player whose wife was black. OK, so it wasn’t just me who noted such things. As time went on, I noted that it seemed that nearly all black Brazilian men of public acclaim were married to or dating white women. Musicians, racially conscious rappers, soccer stars, political figures, you name it. Was’sup with that? In the online social network Orkut it was not only predominantly black online communities who were discussing this; I also read this in mixed communities as well as predominantly white communities. The topic of affirmative action quotas was a hot topic back then and racial debates would get pretty heated. It was always only a matter of time when black-white debate would lead to a white person throwing out, “Well, if you negros have so much pride, why do all of your top soccer players only chase white women?”
It’s not necessarily so that dating/marrying a person of another race proves a lack of racial esteem/pride, but it is still a legitimate question to ask. Often times when this question is posed, the typical response that will be given is the the aforementioned, “love has no color”. But in reality, only a person who is lying or doesn’t want to acknowledge the truth of Brazil’s racial hierarchy knows that a white woman, specifically a blond (real or fake), is given more social value than a black woman. It is the white woman that earns more money. It is the white woman whose image is plastered all over the media. It is the white woman that is valued for marriage, as the old Brazilian saying goes: “White woman for marriage, mulata for fornication, negra for work.”
It is also true that often times when a black man walks into a room, particularly with a blond, whispers and chatter begin: “How did he get her?”, “He must be good in bed”, they’ll say. And it would be foolish to believe that black men don’t know this. Recently, Tinga, one of the two soccer players who faced racial harassment during a soccer match was invited to visit the Presidential Palace to meet with President Dilma Rouseff, along with the referee, Márcio Chagas da Silva, who was also taunted. On the TV program Esporte Espetacular, Tinga was quoted as saying:
“People look when I show up with my wife, no one knows my story. No one knows, and in a look you feel that people think, ‘look at the negão (big black guy) with a blond.’ This I feel all the time.”
Incredible! Are people supposed to feel sorry for him because people look at him when he’s with his wife? I would argue that in many cases, these men are with these women precisely because they ARE white and blond! So if it is in fact true that it is the “trophy wife” that he wants to “show off”, why complain about the attention it attracts when that is exactly why he is with her in the first place?
Another interesting case involving a black Brazilian soccer player and racism concerns the Real Madrid player Marcelo Vieira. In a Copa do Rei da Espanha match in Spain, fans of the rival team Atlético de Madrid called him a “macaco (monkey).” The racism didn’t stop with the slur against Marcelo. After having been insulted, Marcelo’s son Enzo met his father on the field and gave him a hug, to which fans screamed, “Marcelo isn’t your father.” What did these fans mean by this? It could have possibly been the fact that Marcelo’s son looks very white. But then, that it isn’t strange for black Brazilian soccer stars, is it?
This question of successful black men seemingly automatically choosing white women is actually a conversation I’ve had with a number of black Brazilian men and women. Plenty of black women have revealed to me that they’ve had black men directly tell them that they won’t date/marry a black woman for a variety of reasons (attitude, image, beauty and appearance of potential children).
In regards to the men, I’ve had a number of men who are married to white women tell me that often times it is the “Pelé Syndrome”. Although these men rarely speak specifically of themselves, retired soccer superstar Pelé is often pointed to as the first black Brazilian man to have a high level of success in Brazil’s overtly Europeanized media. In the last 50 years, “The King” has been featured as the pitchman for countless products in TV commercials and remains highly visible still today nearly 40 years after his last professional game. As part of his success, Pelé was ALWAYS seen with white women. He married two white women with whom he had children and also had a very public six year relationship with the up and coming Xuxa (Maria da Graça Meneghel), a blond who would go on to become Brazil’s most successful female media mogul in history. Today, Pelé’s significant other is a woman of Asian descent.
So how is one to interpret/explain this? I’ve heard a number of theories: “black Brazilians aren’t political”, say some. “Black Brazilians prefer the easy way out rather than fighting,” say others. Perhaps the most interesting theory I’ve heard is that these men are in the public spotlight, and as such, they always have to appear to have “the best”, and in Brazil, “the best” of women is considered the white woman. It’s also very interesting to note that within the heart of the Movimento Negro, the collective group of black rights organizations, interracial marriage is also very widespread. In fact, within this movement, some of the leadership fights just as hard in support of interracial unions as they do for the progress of the Afro-Brazilian population. It’s yet another twist to understanding a country in which the decimation of the black population by way of racial mixture was an actual policy.
Whatever the case may be, both black and white Brazilians alike have noted a very visible lack of racial pride and esteem at the heart of many of these unions. Below are two pieces on the subject, the first written by a black Brazilian man, the second by a white Brazilian man.
Topsonsky Bezerra on interracial relationships (via Facebook)
I am not against interracial marriage; I think that when true love exists, this business of color does not matter. But that’s not the issue at hand. The problem is that we have not only in Brazil but throughout Latin America a disgraceful racist mentality among the population. The racist white media has taught through the media that is black is ugly, disgraceful, submissive, and mostly bajulador (ass kisser) of whites. The image of blacks in Brazil that is passed on by the media is shameful. When a person is born and grows up in Brazil, he/she has a huge problem with this question of consciousness, here in Brazil everyone wants to be white. Whites want to be white as possible, similar to Europeans, morenos are cowards and try to pass for white helping to discriminate against blacks. A good part of black Brazilian men, for their part, do not marry black women.
The problem is that the black Brazilian man DOES NOT look for black women to marry, they look for white women. A white man only looks to marry a black woman if she is rich or famous. You don’t see white men looking for black women to marry; the black man also doesn’t look for black women to marry. The mestiços (mixed race men) also don’t seek black women to marry. It doesn’t matter if this black woman is rich or famous. So when a black woman gets a better job, she looks for a white man, mainly when the black Brazilian man achieves a better position in society, he completely ABANDONS the chance of looking for a black woman with whom to share his life. So were in this ridiculous little game, the cursed Rede Globo (TV network) teaches us that we should NOT use the terms NEGRO or PRETO (black), they speak of the black women as MULATA. Many don’t know the origin of the term mulato which comes from MULA (MULE), it’s a shameful thing, it’s sad. Look at the Brazilian seleção (national soccer team); you don’t see one black man married to a black woman, you only see black men married to white women.
That’s because all of these are black HOUSE NIGGAS (as Malcolm X said), they are merely PRETOS DE ALMA BRANCA (“blacks with white souls”, ie, “oreo cookies”) (Pelé, Cafu, Romário …Neymar. Neymar looks more like a circus clown when he paints his hair blonde, the guy is ridiculous …)… the black man in Brazil and Latin America is doomed to misfortune for not seeking knowledge on his own people, blacks are duped annually with this crap called Carnaval. Rebolar bunda (booty shaking) for many Brazilians means a lot, beating drums means a lot. One thing I know, the groups beating a lot of drums and the shaking of much booty allows the white racist to take account of their destinations and their lives, controlling the image of blacks, offending, taking away the self-esteem of black children. Brazil is a disgracefully burdened country that’s no use. The Brazilian people are a dominated people. Controlled and mentally enslaved. We need to get rid of the colonial currents in our minds. To finalize, these interracial marriages in Brazil don’t mean that there is no racism; there is indeed racism. There is a lot of racism in this ridiculous society. We need to free ourselves from this mentalidade brancalizada (whitened mentality).
Arouca, Tinga and the double racism of which black women are victims
By Paulo Nogueira
Days ago, we published an article on the DCM Site from the Blogueiras Negras (Black Women Bloggers) site. In it, the author cited a kind of racism little spoken of: that of black men who ascend in relation to black women. As the blogger noted, it’s as if the black women disappear, become invisible to black men who earn notoriety and money.
Brazil never had a Malcolm X, the American activist who dedicated his life to convincing black women that their hair is beautiful the way it is, and their lips, their nose, and their jet black skin. They wanted to be white, and felt inferior for not being white. Malcolm X invented Black Pride, and his greatest follower was Muhammad Ali with his epic scream: “I’m pretty…I’m beautiful.”
In an ignorant phase of his life, Malcolm straightened his hair and went after white women. Later, he never altered his natural hair, and didn’t parade blondes as if they were trophies. He awakened the vital importance of valuing people who felt, like Michael Jackson, less for not being white.
All this came to mind when I read about the deplorable cases of racism against two good black soccer players, Tinga and Arouca. Before proceeding any further, it is clear: it’s a horror and a debacle, and any fan who insults a player by calling him macaco (monkey) should leave the stadium and go to prison automatically.
That said, what do black players do to promote their race? I don’t ask that they be Malcolm X, but what do they do on a simpler and more modest scale?
The sad answer is: nothing.
To the contrary, they indirectly reinforce racism, becoming rich, they immediately imitate white behavior in the acquisition of a white woman. It’s a bleak message to black women, as the blogger whose text was published noted. To this commonplace of Brazilian footballers, I point to Mario Balotelli, the Italian striker who in his wealth and global fame opted for a black girlfriend. Balotelli is thus sending a message: women of our race are beautiful.
Clap, clap, clap. Standing ovation.
This is called social and racial consciousness. I cheer in order that Balotelli doesn’t later embark upon the same racist path of so many black players.
Brazil is a racist country.
And black women are doubly victims of racism in their romantic relationships: whites want them for sex and little else. And blacks when they become famous – another notorious example is Joaquim Barbosa – ignore them.
Such pitiful episodes of Arouca and Tinga throw light on the broad, general and unrestricted discrimination that they are victims of – black women, so pretty, so proud, so resistant and so widely, so cruelly discriminated against.
Source: Diário do Centro do Mundo, Estadão, UOL Esporte
It’s VERY disheartening to read about this stuff in Brazil. It puts the culture and the country in an entirely different light. As for the whole “black men marrying white women” thing, it’s good to know that Anderson Silva is the exception.
Since 2012, I’ve had Brazil on my mind. I’ve met many (wonderful) Brazilians, and I’ve even made the commitment to learning Portuguese (I am also a writer, and I made a character of mine, who I created when I was eighteen, a Brazilian, which was one of the BEST things to ever happen to me!). It’s safe to say that despite all of these horrible truths I’m reading about, I haven’t been deterred from wanting to meet more people and of course learning the language. I just have my qualms about believing I’ll be welcomed with complete open arms by EVERYONE I meet. It’s good to know that I have a clue on what to be on the look-out for.
It would also be great to have a positive impact there and make a difference…but I guess only time will tell.
The truth about The Americas is that the English, Western Europeans including Spain have much to answer to about the societies it has created and unfortunately too many of White Americans and Europeans who find themselves in these countries ignore these issues and take advantage of being White skinned themselves to get ahead of even the native population.
What needs to happen and its too late for African-Americans is to internalize everything. Make your own media, buy your own cameras, your own studio. Put computers in the homes of Black Brazilians who don’t have one and raise the object poor out of poverty and give them decent paying jobs.
With the internet we can bypass the mainstream media, but that means connections need to be made to all the Blacks in-country. Beyond that is creating value where local companies are coming a bit short. Some of these companies are getting help from Germans and other Europeans looking to get a foothold in the country since consumption has gone down significantly since the credit crisis.
Interracial relationships are scrutinized too much by Black communities the world over. What needs to happen is better overall behavior from African-American women (and men) and increasing the confidence and dignity of Blacks that are oppressed in countries beyond Brazil, like Haiti, Dominican Republic, Venezuela, Costa Rica and Colombia.
I am working my way down there and I have so many ideas, I want to help but I do not want any condemnation of coming from the people that look like him who I want to help for pursuing the types of women I date.
Africans in the Diaspora have a serious problem of self hate that in order to love anybody of another ethnic background you must love yourself & know origins of your ancestors from Africa. In my estimation that can enhance your relationships as it pertains to marriage & family.
I feel you Sam. You are 100% correct! I wish more of our people felt this way.
Ramires Wife is black don’t forget about him.
This just proves how discriminating some blacks are towards their own people, self haters!!!!!
This is rubbish, I know nuff black footballers with black partners. Emile Heskey for one. Maybe its because they need to meet females that aint after there money. You know hip hop preaches that about hoes and unfortunately a lot of black females need to carry themselves a little bit better when it comes to choosing men, instead of chasing money
You’re full of CRAP!! Get out of here with that self hatred!!!
Heskey’s wife ain’t black idiot she’s mixed race. If she was black he wouldn’t be with her.
The crap you posted is bullshit and proves how illiterate you are
My husband and l lived in Rio for 6 years and we both decided to go back to Nigeria when we had our twins. It was a lovely place but we would never raise black children in Brasil. The Racism was suffocating, the stories I could tell (new security at my building not allowing in because no way I lived in leblon). Rio De Janeiro is beautiful and sometimes I miss it but in other ways it was down right disgusting.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts about Xinjiang.
I am a 17 year old girl from Africa who is a very big fan of soccer, particularly Brazil. I’ve always wanted to visit the country for I admired it for its diversity in culture and had this mentality that it is racism-free! What I discovered was that all these black players date only white girls. I’ve always wanted to grow up to get married to a white soccer player. What I did discover was that, as much as Black guys are chasing white girls, on the other hand, ‘No White Guys are opting for Black Girls’. I just wish they would realise this. We as black girls feel inferior because of this. It really saddens me what is happening. The situation would be a bit better if it was the same black guy for white girl, white guy for black girl. Too bad such is not the case!
no matter what guys might think of you, always look up for yourself. this is harder as a teen, but always keep your head up and value who you are, your background, your hair, your collour, your beauty and most and foremost your intelligence and your character. no guy can ever give you self-esteem and self-respect. it’s up to you to build it. it’s harder when circumstances are against you. but you can do it, only you. never let any guy’s preference dictate how you think and feel about yourself. you are too young and have a lot of time to do a lot in your life and live a very nice life!
Why does he have to be a football player?
These men feel inferior & just like middle aged men who marry women half their age in a oathetic attempt to “be young” these stupid men will NEVER be white nor accepted as such no matter who they marry to raise their liw self esteem. Yes brazil is racist but they’re not alone in that narrow mibded thinking throughout latin america. Just look at their magazines & tv shows. They need a major awakening!
have these sellout afro brazilan footballers forgotten that interracial relationships were promoted in brazil specifically to wipe them out
Your people caused this problem during slavery,imperialism, and other forms of white propaganda.
It’s amazing how blacks have lowered them selfs and still blame whites when these guys have cash they chase white women in short blacksupply contribute to riches of white pipo
It’s 2018, move on. You will never control or shame black men into not being with white women. Instead of worrying about who’s in bed with what race appreciate that they have found their mate and are in Love but no that would be too difficult, why be happy for these couples when you can spread hate and more division.
Weak and typical comment. Judging from your “we are the world” type of comment, I think the topic may be a little too deep for you so I won’t bother to put much into this response. But you keep on wearing those rose colored glasses…
That is something that`s been a puzzle to me over the years. Having said that, we cannot choose for anyone their life partners. The heart wants what the heart wants. Sadly, there are a lot of black girls missing from the arms of the top black players.
Happy for any happy couple but the question arises; are there any white players with black girlfriends/wives?
Interesating Discussion ! I once asked a Brazilian friend of mine if racism exist in Brazil? he told me, No. I told him that his eyes are wide shut! Ive never been to Brazil…Ive watched a lot of Brazilian football & adored a lot of their great players and I think its tragic that most of them marry white. Talking about footballers, Pele (the greatest footballer)…he married a white woman eh? Oh Dear!
I truly don’t feel sorry for Arouca and Tinga. Because they’ve just reaped the same racial biasness that they’ve sown towards black women. As they as well as other black women hating black men should…